“I think staying soft and vulnerable, and being comfortable saying, ‘You guys, it really hurts, and it’s not real, and it’s not true,’” the House alum advised. “Don’t feel like you have to stay so strong for us; we know you’re strong, it’s okay to be soft if you need to.”

After all, amid rumors that she and Don’t Worry Darling star Florence Pugh were feuding—not to mention an alleged spitting incident between Chris Pine and Harry Styles—Wilde felt compelled to just keep moving forward during the “crazy” time.

“I’ve never felt more disconnected from the person that people were talking about,” the mom of two explained. “It was also very strange to see complete fiction traded as fact.”

And it was a complicated experience for her having to avoid the drama, especially as the speculation about what was going on behind the scenes only spiraled.

“I wanted to be like, ‘Can I just talk to people?’” Wilde admitted. “Can I just go and say like, ‘That’s not true?’ And it was like no, that won’t help. And that was really hard.”

It also hurt to see the film’s whole crew dragged into the mess. “I felt frustrated that I couldn’t defend myself, but it also felt like, ‘Okay, it’s not about you, just get the movie out,'” she recalled. “And the pummeling that I took was so insanely disproportionate.”